Episode 158: A tale of "been there, felt that"

Date: Thursday, February 08, 2007
Subject: Parallelism?

I was thinking of the time when Fi was going to get married and the question that followed after we knew about it... What would I do after that?

Good thing was that you people knew what was actually happening, so such a question did not raise any eyebrows! :-))

And now there is a colleague here who is going to get married in two weeks time. And then she will move.

Now what am I going to do..? :-)

The last time this question cropped up, I switched jobs. I am curious to see what will happen this time.

I was in the USA when she returned post-marriage. And after I returned, I somehow sensed discomfort within me to initiate the same banter we shared before. I didn't find her equally forthcoming either.

Then one day, she confronted me.

'You hardly talk to me these days!'

'Madam, I could say the same thing about you.'

'Woh toh hai. What to do, I have been quite busy looking for a new job and all. Let me know if you know of any.'

One thing we have seen about people getting married is how their lives change. Priorities change, relationships change. Old friends, barring some exceptions, turn into acquaintances. New friends are made. An emphasis is put on how and what the couple should do as a couple. Individuality is often forsaken.

I am hardly in touch with Fi these days. Or countless other friends, guys and girls, who got married.

She left yesterday, to start a new life in the capital. She's promised to keep in touch. But I know she will join that list.

And I have observed that when one departs, one arrives.